Friday, January 16, 2015

Book Review: Sean Lowe's For the Right Reasons

I'm going to let this information fly free, but I watch the Bachelor. It's addictive, and I don't know if I want to give it up. A few seasons ago one of the most memorable bachelors made his appearance, Sean Lowe, and he was the first Bachelor on the show to marry the woman he chose. He also became known as the "born again virgin." Thankfully, in the book he clarifies he became known as that by no advertising or coining of his own, which was a bit of relief. He didn't even seem to like the term. This book leads to many more interesting discoveries upon this one, most interesting of all, what goes on behind the scenes.

Summary: Sean Lowe was a guy trying to find a job he loved in the world, after the loss of football. He never knew what whirlwind adventure he would be put in when his sister and brother in law signed him up for The Bachelorette. After a rejection from Emily Maynard, Bachelor Nation grew to like Sean Lowe, and it made him a prospect to star in The Bachelor. Unknown to him his wife was waiting in the group that he would meet.

I had many thoughts while reading this book that went everywhere. I was wondering why the longest chapter seems to be dedicated to too much football, does Sean still condone fracking?, The Bachelor process seems more genuine than thought, but also just as manipulative, and even maybe Sean isn't that bad of a guy? I was everywhere, and was wondering how I would sum up my thoughts on this one after I finished reading.

Sean's season of The Bachelor
I'm going to begin with my first thought. The first couple of chapters of this book are a bit boring. I understand that football was a huge part of Sean's life, but reading the first couple of chapters was hard to get through. I could have not cared much to hear as much detail on football. Soon we move into more interesting waters, like Sean graduating and finding a job. Now things got questionable here, because a lot of the jobs that Sean took on seem morally and ethically questionable. Yet he never seems to indicate if he ever came to terms with how they might have damaged the other person's life. He is advertising on the book on how a nice guy can finish first, but some of the chapters earlier don't depict what I would consider "nice guy." I'm sure that Sean learned a valuable lesson, and we can tell he felt bad, but after he got the job at the insurance agency we never hear again about the lives perhaps damaged by fracking near their homes? Or the guy who he borrowed money from for an investment, and then lost it all with the guy not knowing Sean's company was on verge of collapse. What happened to these people? It's like the first bit of the book talks about Sean's life being so stressful and complicated, but yet he sought very fishy ways of making money by using other people's money. That can go very bad or okay.

The next part becomes a lot more interesting after Sean makes it onto The Bachlorette. Not because hearing a rehash of the show was interesting, but because of the setup behind scenes. I think being a social cynic made me perceive a lot of the interactions with staff more negatively than Sean took it. They assigned one person who seemed to stick closer to Sean through the entire season, this also led to him feeling tighter and closer to this staff, and they also would share their own feelings if they thought him and Emily were growing close. The staff seemed to genuinely want him to win Emily's heart, but I also wonder if they set that up so the emotions are fueled up by people who give you affirmations of someone's attention. Now for the season where he is the actual Bachelor, a lot is revealed too, and a lot more real moments happen according to Sean than people might think.

People cover story they were shocked to see.
Lastly, I want to say that Sean ultimately ended up not being as I thought he was. He acknowledges he isn't perfect, and for the most part faulted. I thought it was respectful how he treated the women on the show. I heard the recent Bachelor, Chris, talking about a woman on his season with Jimmy Kimmel, and he called her crazy. While this woman may be coming off odd, he wasn't very considerate or aware in his language of calling her crazy and laughing about what maybe was going on with her, and how it might affect her seeing how she is portrayed on television. Now Sean seemed much more aware of that. He didn't talk about any of the woman in a negative light, including Tierra, from his season who caused a lot of controversy with the other women. I thought this at least showed that while Sean has faults, he does try to take in the surrounding pressures and issues lurking while on this show. I also liked how Sean did make a point to voice he doesn't think his or Catherine's sexuality defines their faith, and he seemed concerned that anytime he mentioned his beliefs those two were intertwined. I agreed and was glad to see he wanted the focus to be on a faith in Christ, and not what someone is doing that is their personal business.

Are you watching this season of The Bachelor?

Will you pick up Sean Lowe's book to read? 

This book was provided by Book Look Bloggers in exchange for a review.

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